I'm an oldish people. Lol. But I'm different. My parents tried to control me and I hated it. Lol. So I rebelled, hard๐๐คฃ Not in a horrible way, I just insisted that they allow me to be myself. I didn't raise my child that way. I saw her as another person. A tiny one, but a person none the less. I didn't try to control her. A lot people think their children are their property and it's sick.
Thank you for learning the lesson and breaking that cycle! I GUARANTEE your daughter is better off for it.
Many parents view their children as property, not a gift to help grow into their own person. Next thing you know you leave the house and you don't which way is up ๐๐
I rebelled as well and my parents didn't realize it cause they were so stuck in their own insecurities. Now they're somehow surprised I want nothing to do with them after years of trying my damndest to build some kind of healthy relationship with them. I felt like I had to escape in order to find more joy in life. But it's hard because you feel guilty even though you just tryna do what's best and healthiest ๐๐
You know the thing is is that I never wanted to control my kid๐คทโโ๏ธ I certainly didn't see that as conducive to a healthy, happy childhood. I think she did. Lol. Unfortunately she's just like her dad, selfish. Her wants always come before other's needs. Oh dear, lol. I didn't give my parents any choice. I refused to be the perfect little girl for my mom and, while I'm sure my dad had my best interests at heart, he went about trying to "protect" me kinda wrong. He did teach how to defend myself and to always stand up for myself though. He also taught me to be kind๐ Glad we both came through our childhoods mostly unscathed๐ซ
yeah as you get older you realize, thereโs no such thing as perfect. We just gotta model calm, emotionally resilient people as best we can.
I think people forget that showing up for yourself is the best way to show up for kids and in life in general. and its very important to not lead with fearโฆ replace fear with awareness and teach your kid how to love themselves so that light can shine onto others.
We have this idea of who our kids should be, or who we should be, but life isnโt something we can control, so we have to let go of โshouldโ and give ourselves and others space to grow into who theyโre meant to be.
hahaha idk how unscathed I am, but i have been able to be more grateful for the lessons Iโve learned and feel like they will let me not only become wiser myself, but maybe inspire other people, especially kids, to learn how to enjoy life and respect themselves at earlier ages than I did. Experience is the best teacher, but hopefully I have a perspective that can help them find their own Way without creating so much suffering for themselves.
Absolutely. Agreed. Easier said than done. Lol. One of my favorite lessons I've learned is that he who angers you controls you.
Hey, we agree again ๐คทโโ๏ธ๐คฃ My dad told me that as long as I like who I see in the mirror everyone else's opinion is bullshit. So I learned to walk my talk.
The only things I want for my kid is that she's happy and healthy. It's up to her how she chooses to live her life. And I think that's all my parents wanted for me too. Oh, I think you're doing fine๐
I'm an oldish people. Lol. But I'm different. My parents tried to control me and I hated it. Lol. So I rebelled, hard๐๐คฃ Not in a horrible way, I just insisted that they allow me to be myself. I didn't raise my child that way. I saw her as another person. A tiny one, but a person none the less. I didn't try to control her. A lot people think their children are their property and it's sick.
Thank you for learning the lesson and breaking that cycle! I GUARANTEE your daughter is better off for it.
Many parents view their children as property, not a gift to help grow into their own person. Next thing you know you leave the house and you don't which way is up ๐๐
I rebelled as well and my parents didn't realize it cause they were so stuck in their own insecurities. Now they're somehow surprised I want nothing to do with them after years of trying my damndest to build some kind of healthy relationship with them. I felt like I had to escape in order to find more joy in life. But it's hard because you feel guilty even though you just tryna do what's best and healthiest ๐๐
You know the thing is is that I never wanted to control my kid๐คทโโ๏ธ I certainly didn't see that as conducive to a healthy, happy childhood. I think she did. Lol. Unfortunately she's just like her dad, selfish. Her wants always come before other's needs. Oh dear, lol. I didn't give my parents any choice. I refused to be the perfect little girl for my mom and, while I'm sure my dad had my best interests at heart, he went about trying to "protect" me kinda wrong. He did teach how to defend myself and to always stand up for myself though. He also taught me to be kind๐ Glad we both came through our childhoods mostly unscathed๐ซ
yeah as you get older you realize, thereโs no such thing as perfect. We just gotta model calm, emotionally resilient people as best we can.
I think people forget that showing up for yourself is the best way to show up for kids and in life in general. and its very important to not lead with fearโฆ replace fear with awareness and teach your kid how to love themselves so that light can shine onto others.
We have this idea of who our kids should be, or who we should be, but life isnโt something we can control, so we have to let go of โshouldโ and give ourselves and others space to grow into who theyโre meant to be.
hahaha idk how unscathed I am, but i have been able to be more grateful for the lessons Iโve learned and feel like they will let me not only become wiser myself, but maybe inspire other people, especially kids, to learn how to enjoy life and respect themselves at earlier ages than I did. Experience is the best teacher, but hopefully I have a perspective that can help them find their own Way without creating so much suffering for themselves.
Absolutely. Agreed. Easier said than done. Lol. One of my favorite lessons I've learned is that he who angers you controls you.
Hey, we agree again ๐คทโโ๏ธ๐คฃ My dad told me that as long as I like who I see in the mirror everyone else's opinion is bullshit. So I learned to walk my talk.
The only things I want for my kid is that she's happy and healthy. It's up to her how she chooses to live her life. And I think that's all my parents wanted for me too. Oh, I think you're doing fine๐